Is Dragging up the Past ever Worthwhile? – I am not sure

Recent media stories about events of 16 years ago, and new investigations made me consider, is dragging up the past ever worthwhile?

While I recognise that knowing the truth is worthy and beneficial in many instances, I am not so sure that a continued picking at old wounds is really helpful, and sometimes it is it not better to just let it go.

This I am sure is difficult, and if you feel that in some way you were responsible then knowing the full outcome no matter how difficult is often I am sure necessary.

I do however worry that other members of your family especially other children also need to move on and live their lives, they should not be burdened by a guilt that you may well have inadvertently imposed upon them.

I am not convinced that seeking out the truth in this tragic case or any like it, is of real benefit.

If the child, or young adult now, is miraculously found 16 years after her disappearance what will be the outcome.

If they are alive they will certainly not know their parents or recognise them or understand them in any way.

They may like many adopted children wish to know the truth and get to know the blood parents and siblings they don’t recognise, but similarly they may not wish to know them or want anything to do with them. What would happen then?

Would the media continue to highlight the parents continued and persistent quest to know the child they tragically deserted one spring evening, or would everyone let the young adult live the life they now know?

Alternatively if the body is found, what then? will this allow everyone to move on or will there be a continual seeking of the guilty party and to seek justice for such a dreadful loss of life.

We are all different and deal with matters in our own way, but I often wonder do some of us, react as they believe others feel we should react, rather than to purely be true to ourselves.

I recognise that tragedy affects us all differently, but I strongly believe that with all heartbreaking events it is always better to look forward and to live our lives with those that we love, while clearly not forgetting those that unfortunately are no longer part of our lives.

Dwelling on, or resurrecting the past in my opinion is not the way to lead a life, especially for those that remain with you and love you.

Perhaps just let it go…..